Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Today I feel bad:(


Have you ever been in a disagreement with a friend. It's a lot of you said/she said, and at the same time, it hurts:( Today is that day for me. Normally, I try to avoid such drama at all costs. I forwarded an email from one of my best friends to a friend with good intentions since the original email had no disclaimer (as in DONT TELL ANYONE) on it concerning a situation we were all involved in. Everyone had been discussing said situation for days; so, I didn't deem the email as privy information. Well, this email got passed along for reasons I will not disclose but definitely do understand why it was forwarded. However, I do think friend should have consulted with me and my besty since this email was sent to me from besty's work email, and I forwarded it to friend from my work email. During one of our mass emails (my friends and I email back and forth throughout the day), the forwarded email was made known due to Memphis being the BIGGEST SMALL TOWN ever. Well, besty then lashed out, on MASS not individual email, about the breach of confidentiality and such. I fessed up and explained that it was me and was with good intent not bad. Then, it just turned into a whole disaster. Besty emailed me privately, and I of course am very Southern with a VERY bad temper. I gotta cool down. Give me a few hours. I did not respond to email. Therefore, Besty sent another email which infuriated me to the point that I sent a VERY snarky email back. Which normally, I wouldn't do just because I take time sit back and reflect on it, ponder it, think would this hurt the other's feelings, etc. Hence why I need time to cool off. However, I just hit send b/c she didn't give me time enough to cool off. Now, I feel terrible about sending said email. Now, I'm gonna have to pray extra at church tonight during our Lenten studies. My birthday is tomorrow, and we have a bday celebration planned for Friday night. I don't want it to be awkward b/c I love my best friend and want her there. Plus, I don't want my bday ruined over some stupid crap. I am just going to email her tomorrow and rectify the situation by apologizing again and reiterating that we were both in the wrong in certain aspects about the way we handled said situation, and that I truly am sorry. Has this happened to you? Do you have any advice?

Btw, this is my 96th post. I'll be doing a giveaway for my 100th post. So you'll just have to wait and see.

Send a Happy Birthday wish out to Piper Jacqueline at Steak & Cakes. She's such a sweet bloggy friend!!!!

14 comments:

With Love from New Orleans said...

Oh no.. Don't worry about it! Tomorrow is a new day. HAPPY EARLY BIRTHDAY!

I felt the same way the other day about my friend.. she was just ANNOYING ME... but I cooled down and everything is cool.

She will understand.
XO

thepreppyprincess said...

These can be the worst sometimes Miss JM, honestly. But as Scarlett said, "Tomorrow is another day." And tomorrow is your birthday - may it be fabulous for you!
tp

Niki said...

I hate those situations!! Don't worry about it, it won't be as big of a deal tomorrow. And Happy Early Birthday!

Sweet Home Amy said...

Just do exactly what you're doing...give yourself some space, give her some space. Just like the other gals said, tomorrow is a new day. Once you've both slept on it you'll feel better and be able to speak intelligently about the situation to each other. You're best friends, and it's only natural for ya'll to have differences. You'll be back to normal in no time! :)

Meggers said...

I wish this wasn't such a familiar feeling to me! I totally understand where you're coming from. I'd tell Besty (tomorrow, when you've had a chance to cool down and she has too) that you only forwarded the email with the best of intentions, and that you're truly sorry it got spread around further than Person C.

Gwen said...

Just let it be for right now and see what tomorrow brings. You can even send her a good morning email and tell her you've cooled off.

Have a very Happy Birthday tomorrow!!!

Little Pink Magnolia said...

I'm sorry you've had such a bad day... I know that arguments with friends are the worst. Hopefully she'll understand and know that you just needed some time to cool off!

Shea said...

I am sorry your pre-birthday was so bad. I celebrate my birthday for a whole week so I would be sooo mad. Hopefully by tomorrow everyone has had the chance to cool off!

Danielle said...

Ok so first I have to say that we share a birthday and have almost the exact same amount of blog posts!!! How cool are we?! :)

As for the friend situation, definitely sounds sucky :( I hope it all works out and you are able to have a very happy birthday! Remember, all friends have disagreements and fights - you guys will make it through this and come out stronger!

Lipstick said...

Oh, I'm so sorry! Isn't it crazy how things just get out of hand before you even really can understand what went wrong. I'll bet y'all can hug it out and then enjoy some cosmos.

Miss Lemonade said...

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. But don't worry about it, and don't let it ruin your birthday. She will get over it in a couple days, and everything will be forgotten and will be back to normal! :)

Lilly P. Wannabe said...

Happy Almost Birthday!!! I bet that everything will have blown over by tomorrow because girls are just like that. Also, I totally second your comment about Memphis being the smallest town. Everyone knows everyone and everyone's business. It's kinda scary!

MarvelousMOM said...

Happy Birthday my dear!!!!!! I hope that you are having a good today and that what happened yesterday isn't still wearing on you.

It sounds like there was just miscommunication. You guys love each other and will work it out - that is what freinds do...especially best friends!

I hope you have a wonderful, excellent birthday!!

Southern Sugar said...

Just make sure you treat yourself as fairly in this situation as you treat your friends. I had a situation where a friend did something that really hurt me and I felt she was in the wrong, to keep the peace and keep her as my best friend I let it slide and it just built up in me until I was so resentful I cut her off completely. Maybe if I'd been angy a little longer she would have apologized. Maybe not. But if you are not completely in the wrong don't take the blame completely. Hope this helps and that you got everything straightened out for your Bday.

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