Thursday, February 11, 2010

A Birthday Milestone

 My birthday is coming up. And yes, tis true, I will be the big 3-0. In the past few months, it seemed kinda scary. I just think back to when I was in college, and 30 just seemed so far away. It kind of snuck up on me to be honest. And, then sometimes okay, ALL the time I think that my early twenties self envisioned my thirtieth birthday entirely different. I think she envisioned a lavish career with a HUGE house, some kids, and a wonderful HOT husband or all the things mentioned but retired from lavish career to be a SAHM and having all her family, friends, and kids surprise her with some awesome blow out party. And ladies, my life is far from that. I think maybe a few months ago, I'd been too hard on myself. So what, I do a desk job and don't use my 1 1/2 degrees i just need to write my thesis to complete my masters. it's been 2 years now. total slacker i know, and the fact I owe my financial soul to the devil, aka the government, due to student loans. Who cares. And, I just always thought I'd be married by now.  It never crossed my mind that I would be "legally single" on my birthday speaking in tax filing and insurance purposes of course;) But now, that my birthday is creeping closer, 22 days away in fact, I just don't care. In fact, if I could go back and tell my twenty year old self anything, it would be absolutely NOTHING. I'm a firm believer in that everything happens for a reason. I think bad things, good things, mediocre things, and all things happen as a stepping stone to get us on the path we need to go. Had the events in my life leading up today not happened who knows where I'd be today. If my twenty year old self wasn't so confident about my future then I might have freaked and rushed myself into things that didn't need to be. Quite a few people I know and a few friends have already had "divorce" parties and are single moms before the age of 30. I'm so glad my life is the way it is. I met the most handsome, wonderful, sweet, kind, compassionate, loving, and caring man in my latter twenties. That would be LC. I got Puggy in latter twenties as well. And those two things, I would not change for anything. I mean that. Now, I feel that 30 is better than anything my twenty year old self could have ever envisioned. It's actually exactly where I want to be. And that's happy. I am truly disgustingly happy. And that my friends, I wouldn't trade for some lavish job or fancy office or a marriage that would probably be completely dysfunctional and failing now because I married too early.** The most important thing about my birthday is that I'm going to be spending it with friends! Old friends, new friends, college friends. We are going to Nashville the weekend before my bday to celebrate. Just the girls. It's gonna be so much fun! It just doesn't get any better than that;)

**We all know some people in the blogging world take offense to EVERYTHING. So to clarify that statement, there is nothing wrong with being married in your early twenties. For me, it would have been equal to a disaster. I was selfish, self-absorbed, still trying to figure out who I was and what I wanted to do with my life. It would not have worked due to those factors. I'm not saying it wouldn't have or hasn't worked for you. Ok, that is all.

19 comments:

Natasha said...

there is NO WAY you're going to be 30??? you are looking good sweetie and i think you're just fabulous the way you are!!

Miss. Pretty said...

First off, I agree with Natasha! Never would have guessed 30! This post was amazing! I'm a baby, just turned 21 and I really agree with everything you said. I go back and forth about when is the "right" time to 'settle' down. But I want to live my twenties, not saying you can't do that married, but I think you know what I mean! I also what to figure out what I want to do and support myself for a while, just to say "I did it!" It's funny how you think you are going to do this, this, and this by age X and then you get there and everything is different..life is funny like that!

Natalie said...

I went through this SAME THING a few months ago. I can still remember when 30 was old. Here I am, 30 married with kids. Not exactly the life I imagined for myself when I was a kid, but I wouldn't trade it for anything. Even the times I thought I would never get through. I honestly believe everything happens for a reason.

Happy Early Birthday! Enjoy Nashvegas!

Chic Runner said...

I really enjoyed reading this post and your views on your younger self looking back :) Hope you have a wonderful birthday and enjoy time with friends. Age is just a number anyways! :)

Bethany said...

I will be the big 3-0 on March 28.
And I remember when 30 sounded old!

Enjoy your birthday weekend trip!!

P.S. Doesn't it suck that people are so touchy and get offended by what people write on their blogs?? Like, get a life. :)

Christin said...

Great post! I also believe everything happens for a reason. I wanted to be a music teacher (yuck) and thought my a** of a boyfriend in college was "the one" and that I would be married as soon as I graduated. Boy was I WAY wrong (and uber thankful I was).

I met my beau when I was 22 (he was 26). Now I'm 25, and we're still in the engagement process. Everyone wonders why we're waiting so long, why we don't live together, blah blah blah. The truth is, we're not in a rush. We're happy. We're living our lives like we want to, and doing things on our own timeline.

If we all went by our predictions about what our lives would be like at 25, 30, whenever, we would all probably be miserable!

Good for you for embracing where you are. There was a great article on CNN the other day on when is the right time to get married and the answer was, THERE ISN'T ONE! It is different for everyone.

I hope you have a fabulous birthday! You deserve it!

Lauren Kelly said...

Sooooooooo true, and from what I’ve heard, the 30s are the best years. You have lots to look forward to!! :)

Tami said...

Well! I must be honest!!! I was absolutely FLOORED when you mentioned 30! Here's proof that it's only a number! You truly hit the nail on the head with this post! I too, had the perfect picture planned growing up and what I expected when I reached a certain age or what was going to happen. And you know what, it did, it hasn't and it's not on that path. BUT! Like you, I wouldn't change it for ANYTHING! Hooray for being happy, for being content and for celebrating moments in time that will have a lasting impression!

Texan Couture said...

Life never seems to work out the way we planned, it often works out much better in my opinion. Have an awesome birthday!

Elle said...

Yay! Happy Birthday, I love this post! enjoy Nashville!

Emma said...

There is NO WAY you are going to be 30?! I NEVER would have guessed! I am a firm believer if you want to turn 29 again every year from here on out, it's completely appropriate and acceptable!;) xoe

Practically Perfect... said...

First of all, happy birthday!

Second of all, love your attitude! And as someone who did marry early (22 y/o), I'm not offended in the least. Everyone has different "right" times :-)

Ruth said...

I have to admit 30 didn't hurt as bad as 25. I would not have guessed when you are going to hit that milestone.

Kassie said...

I would never have thought you were almost 30! That's incredible! You have such a great attitude about it all.

The Pink Chick said...

Happy Birthday-a little early! I love this post! You are so right on! I feel so very similar!

Blondiesblondemoments said...

Being thirty isn't all that bad. You may have your moments like oh crap I'm thirty but over all it is great. Ill be 31 next month..yikes..lol

LydiaAndPugs said...

Happy Birthday...I can't believe you'll be 30, you look too young!

PS I left you some sunshine on my blog! Enjoy! Happy weekend!

Nishant said...

I thought I would never get through. I honestly believe everything happens for a reason.

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Mrs. Smith said...

Cracks me up that you had to add that disclaimer. I got married at 24. Late for some, early for others, right for us. Everyone has their own situations and I'm glad you figured out what's best for you!! :)

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