First off, I'll just say it...weddings are STRESSFUL and EXHAUSTING! The best part about my day was marrying my best friend. It's so weird for people to call me by my new last name. I find myself looking over my shoulder for my mother-in-law...because it's "her" name. Ha! I guess it will take some getting used to.
When it comes to work and planning things, I am totally TYPE A. I focus on the smallest details and notice everything. For me, it was really hard at my wedding. Things were not right. They were not exactly done how I had planned.
For example, my florist left arrangements out of the window that we paid for. I emailed her asking for refund and she said "she" was there and they were put out. She has no control over who moved them and the containers were returned so they were there. I saw some arrangements in the windows of the buffet room, but they were NOT how they were explained on the invoice and shouldn't have been in there anyways. She basically blamed in on my caterer. There is absolutely no reason the caterer would have moved the arrangements because they wouldn't have even been in the way. Complete BS. Needless to say, I will not be recommending Holliday's Flowers to anyone. Not to mention, we had discussed some fall leaves in the bouquets. I did not want them all added at the bottom looking like a homemade craft project. My bridesmaids and I had to pull them out. I shouldn't have to do that on my wedding day. Also, they put my brooch on the wrong bouquet. Partly my fault, she added it to the wrong section on the invoice. I should have caught that but come on...you should know better. Not to mention, we talked about using one of the flowers that was in my bouquet for LC's boutonniere. I'm not an expert on flowers. She should have explained to me that it would be really BIG. I mean this orchid was huge and white. Literally, HUMONGOUS! LC's brother joked he was wearing a satellite on his lapel. So, we had to exchange his satellite dish with a more demure usher boutonniere. He should have had something special. Grrrrrrr!!!!!! Then, I was ADAMANT about having gold vessels/containers for my flowers. I am paying you for a service. I'm not paying you for your artistic expression. The lower arrangements were in these brown boxes. I did not okay that and wished I had been informed of this executive decision if they were unable to provide this. Also, I wasted money on candle holders for the windows to set around the window arrangements. Needless to say, I am not pleased. I've had tons of compliments on the flowers and yes, they were pretty, but it wasn't exactly what I feel I expected them to be.
My caterer, Draper's Catering, was AMAZING!!! It's a family owned business, and I do not have enough words in my vocabulary to praise them enough:) The son probably thinks I'm crazytown. I freaked out after the whole craft project bouquet flowers and could not get ahold of the event planner or florist. So, I called him. He went and took a picture of the arrangement to show me no fall leaves. They are so awesome. Everything was delicious! We are still getting complements on the food! And the son also found the signature drink recipe. People are still talking about my drink and are asking for the recipe! My cake was beautiful, and I can't thank them enough. A personal handwritten thank you is coming their way.
I hired an event planner to set up all the decor at the reception. And, I must say that Southern Event Planners did an amazing job. They arranged the decor in such a beautiful way, and I am very pleased. I would recommend them highly! They put out everything where it was supposed to be and made it so beautiful.
The band was a friend of my in-laws, and they didn't have our list. They played whatever they felt like the whole night. I had made a huge list of songs that I knew all of our friends and us would dance to. Needless to say, I didn't dance much. But people seemed to have a good time...so all in all, that was okay.
I forgot my invitation suite and wasn't able to get a picture of it. I forgot my veil, to retouch up my makeup after the wedding, and my special hanger with my new name on it for my dress picture.
I felt really rushed when I was leaving my hotel room and forgot all of those things. Luckily, I ended up with all sans invitation.
If I could give any future brides one piece of advice, make to-do lists and check off lists. I work two jobs, am in Junior League, and I have to find time to grade papers. I was really overwhelmed and didn't do this. Definitely make a day of checklist. That way you can ensure that you have all the things you need to take with you to the church and/or ceremony site. Also, keep a copy of the band list or list of songs for DJ. Just in case, it's "lost". You have one to hand over to them.
My only regret is that I am so type-A when it comes to that kind of stuff that it was hard for me to really sit back and enjoy my own wedding. I'm hoping when I get to see the pics of how it all finally came together that I will enjoy it more. It feels like such a blur. I can't even remember how 3 hours went by so fast.
We aren't going on a honeymoon til the summer. life of a teacher! We don't get vacation time. hey, i'm not complaining though. We get lots of breaks:) We're thinking about Key West...