Yeah not that question. The Move-In question.
LC-can we have a talk
LC-where do you see our future
Me-I see myself with you forever
LC-that's how I see it too
LC-Will you move in with me when I buy this house
Me-(thinking it would be closer to August when my lease is up due to previous conversations) ummmmm, I still have my apartment til August. And, I'd like to keep it since we're not married.
LC-I was looking at houses for US. I can't afford the price range we've been looking at myself and it's silly for you to pay rent when you'll be over ALOT.
Me-We're not engaged or married, what would your family think. Your mother is a devout Catholic and what about Gma? She'll just die. I mean what if you break up with me then I'm homeless:(
LC-Do we have to be married for you to live with me? I stay with you now and we're not married.
Me-Well, I would like to be engaged if I was moving in.
LC-Well, we've only been dating 6mos.
Me-We will be together a year by the time my lease is up and engaged does not mean a wedding the next day
Me-The church makes you wait at least 6mos. before you can even set a date.
Me-I'm not trying to get you to marry me or propose. This isn't a trick or an ultimatum. I'm just scared b/c of what happened with _____. (then story of TWOS move/kick out comes out)
LC-Well, do you want to get married now?
Me-I would marry you yes.
LC-give it time.
LC-is that okay?
Me-yeah sure. (crack a joke about the "giving time")
LC-look it's either a ring or a house and I can't afford both right now. The market is good and might not ever be this low. You will get a ring but I just need time.
So, what's a girl to do? I guess that question will come up in June after I've been staying in said bought house and lease is coming up for renewal. So, I guess if said house is bought soon then I have some time to buy myself. I mean what do y'all think? Would you do it with no ring on your finger?
I guess I should fill you in. TWOS (see sidebar) and I rushed into a relationship and lived together for the almost year we were together. TWOS lost his job and couldn't afford nice apartment in the nice suburb/city we lived in. Was thinking of moving in with friends. Obviously, TWOS is selfish and only thinks of himself. Ended up moving in with a mutual friend of ours. Then TWOS realized he would be over quite a bit and weaseled his way into moving in with us. Granted the roomie was never there so TWOS and I basically had our own place together. It was cheap, I was still in school, and it was convenient. Well, in the duration of living together, TWOS decided he needed to find himself, since I finally put my foot down. I got tired of picking him up at bars at 3am b/c he's an alcoholic and, I got tired of his incessant need to party. So, I started doing my own thing. Not picking him up, going out with friends more, and not going to his tennis crap functions. While still living with me, TWOS decided to find a new girlfriend. Yes, I said WHILE STILL LIVING WITH ME. Of all things, I find out on Facebook. He said we were on a break. Okay buddy, breaks require you moving out, not coming home and watching tv, taking a shower, etc. Right after I kicked him out, Yes I kicked him out Carrie Underwood style. I found out about said girlfriend on Turkey Day. Called TWOS and told him to come get his belongings off the lawn. He drove up to see this fed up Belle tossing all his sh!t in the grass from our second floor balcony. Oh is this printer you used to print out stuff b/c you love you love it so much. CRASH! Sorry, I didn't mean for it to shatter. Just thought it would fall gracefully. Ooops!
After all was said and done, along came student teaching. If any of you out there are teachers or were teachers, you know what this means. BROKE. NO DINERO. You basically work a 40hr week job for NO PAY. With TWOS moving out, my parents had to help me financially. It was unexpected. So my point after rambling this ridiculous story about my personal life which some of you may think I'm crazy, well it's made me scared. Of course, I trust LC with all my heart, but hey, he lives with me. I still have the say so; it's my place. My name is on the lease. Needless to say, I'm just scared because what if he wakes up one day and doesn't like me anymore. Then, I'm homeless having to find a new apartment with another deposit and another pet deposit.....
Sorry, I just had to get that out. Thanks for reading/listening if you still are at this point. I love all of you my bloggy friends:)