Monday, October 19, 2009

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Today, I had planned a post about my fun travels over the weekend. But instead, the happy post I had intended to write is now fallen to the wayside. One of my IRL friends stumbled upon my blog by accident a long time ago, and a few others know about it. Evidently, while I was gone, they took offense to my post titled "My So-Called Life". I try to be careful about my wording when referring to my friends for fear that things may get taken out of context which is what has happened over the weekend. My post was not intended to portray a friend who thought she was better than her friends, or a friend who thought just because she is getting really serious with her boyfriend finds that her "un-married" friends aren't mature enough for her. The post was meant to convey that I was scared about leaving my comfortable life downtown with all my friends who live nearby. It was about wishing that my friends were going through the same exact thing I was. I wish they were moving to the suburbs too. I am afraid I will never see them. I am afraid if I have cookouts or parties at my house, that they will not come. That they will have East Parkway syndrome even with me. It was about being scared to move onto the next step. Change isn't easy. It isn't going to be easy moving away from all that I know and love and hold dear to my heart. That's what my post was about. Maybe, I should have said those exact words, but I did not. And my other IRL friend said she quit reading my blog because I insulted her. I went back through my ENTIRE blog and found very few times I mentioned her, but to me, it was not insulting. This has really hurt my feelings. I am well aware that some of my friends read my blog, and I would never say anything deliberately mean about them. I do not air my dirty laundry over the internet. So for future reference, IRL friends, if you read something you take as not okay, please talk to me about it before making assumptions. I will almost guarantee that is not the way it was intended to be. I love my friends and would never do anything intentionally to hurt them. Today is the day we close on the house. Instead of being a happy day and a day of joy, it is a day that I am sad.

17 comments:

Shaina said...

Oh, that is a total bummer. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Hearing stories like this really makes me wish I had more control over who reads my blog...I really don't know which of my IRL friends read. It would just be good to know. Blah.

Practically Perfect... said...

So sorry to hear that your day has been kind of spoiled :-( I sometimes wish that friends and family didn't know about my blog so that I could be a little less careful with what I say. Some of my husband's students even found my blog once, and while I wasn't saying anything about them, it was still weird. That's part of why I eventually changed my URL. I hope that your IRL friends get over things soon, and that you're still able to enjoy the day!

Lauren Kelly said...

You know, you just get to the point where you realize you can't make everyone happy. This blog world is a crazy thing.... Congrats on the house!! :)

The Dishy Decorator said...

I'm sorry that this happened. That's the bad thing about blogs, email, etc. Simple W-O-R-D-S can be taken out of context. There's something that is lost when we're not face to face with someone.

If you're like me, you blog as more of a diary, and it's not always meant to be read by the masses or IRL friends. I find I forget that sometimes, and open up too much. There's that fine line where things can greatly misinterpreted. I hope things work out for you today, and you can focus on your new house!

Tara Gibson said...

im so sorry girl! I hope it blows over fast for you! I wish blogger had more ways you could control who reads the blogs!

cMe said...

Ugh! That's why I rarely put my feelings out onto my blog. I would desperately love to write about how I want a baby and D doesn't (right now) but I KNOW friends & family would read it and totally freak out.

Lulu in D.C. said...

That is just terrible. I am sorry you are not having as good of a day...but still be excited! Closing on a house is exciting! I keep my blog private, just my husband knows. However, an old friend (who also is a blogger) found it recently. I don't mind having her know, as it is actually a great way for us to get back in touch. But, I continue to watch what I post now, just in case another friend finds me!

Jennifer said...

I am so sorry girl! I am sure it will all blow over soon. I really wish that there were better ways to control who reads your blog than just going private. My mom and I got into a dicussion about blogging the other day because she showed her co-workers my blog and I told her that was over the line and I didn't want them to read. It is embarassing for them to read it. She just could not understand why it isn't embarassing for "strangers" to read but for her coworkers it is. Oh, I was so mad! I hate to know people IRL are reading because I feel like I have to edit everything before I publish it. You really shouldn't have to feel like that when you blog. Blogging is for you, not for anyone else!

Jennifer said...

Oh, and congrats on closing!!!!! :)

Southern Champagne Wishes said...

Oh no! I'm so sorry that happened to you. I remember that post and didn't think that's how it came across at all, but hopefully things will get worked out with your friends.

I hope that despite all of this, you can put it aside at least for a few minutes while you're closing on your house. This is a day that you will want to remember! I really hope that it's a great one and I'm so sorry that you're having a hard day. Thinking about ya!

PreppyBumpkin said...

My heart goes out to you....your blog is just the sweetest and I hate people took something out of context.

I have a friend who automatically assumes every time I talk about a friend that it's in reference to her. So high school; and so unnecessary!

And...I bet they come to the BBQs *smiles*

Lil' Woman said...

Ugh, I'm sorry your happy day turned into a not so happy one...keep your head up girl! :)

Blackeyed_Susan said...

I haven't told any of my IRL friends about my blog, I like to think it is just for me! I still wonder if anyone knows. Things will get better with your friends, I hope this doesn't make you stop writing! Sending good wishes your way.

Preppy Pink Crocodile said...

Oh that sucks! I am so sorry! It bugs me when IRL peeps read and don't say anything. To me it feels like listening in on a conversation from behind a door. Sneaky. It doesn't give you a chance to elaborate and explain. Hang in there, cutie!

Wearing Mascara said...

Sorry... I just saw this now.

I'm sorry this has happened. As bloggers, it's hard to make sure you portray your intentions in a certain way and it's very easy to be misinterpreted. I hope this situation has settled by now. xx

wdjohnson said...

Blogging has its drawbacks. Don't worry, the real friends always come back.

Dana said...

Hey- I'm already past East Parkway, so you know I don't have that Syndrome! :-) I can't wait to see your new house and you know I will be attending BBQs and hope to have some Rock Band nights!

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