Thursday, June 4, 2009

Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are same...


is one of my fave lyrics to a song by The Fray on this album pictured above, and it holds so true...


I don't always get too personal on my posts but today might just be one of those kinda days. I'm pretty snarky yet charming at the same time, but once you get to know me you realize it's all a big facade. I'm actually one of the nicest people you'll ever meet. I was always the girl in high school and college who would be friends with the "less than cool" people and be friends with all the "cool" kids too. I was never that girl to be the one to bully other girls, or act like I was better than anyone else. I became friends with one of my friend's roommates a few years ago. We weren't super close, but we were friends. I would go over their house often. Last Spring, I was still dealing with the aftermath that my ex TWOS left behind. I was student teaching which is stressful enough itself b/c you are working a full time job for no pay, working at night to pay bills, hurt from kicking my cheating ex out and everything that comes along with that. Well, at that moment in my life, I became the catty, snotty girl from middle school. I took it out on my friend's roommate (they were no longer roommates). To make a long story short, I just wasn't very nice to her. I took out my frustrations in my own life on her and that's not fair. Really, she is the only one that I did this to. Our friendship pretty much dissolved. She is now friends with a girl that my group is no longer friends with for various reasons. That was a year ago. Things are different. By the end of last Summer, my life was in a happy place, I had a job, started dating wonderful LC, moved into my own apartment, and was back to my normal self. But, what I did was wrong. I couldn't sleep last night, and it just kept weighing on my mind. So, I bit the bullet. I don't have her number anymore; so, I messaged her on FaceBook. I mean that's like the new text message, right???? Basically, I told her that the apology was long overdue, and just because I was at an unhappy place in my life, it doesn't justify my behavior. I told her I was sorry for being catty and mean. She knew the situation between my ex and I. She actually tried to convince me not to date him. I have not heard back from her. She might show the message to my ex-best friend and their friend circle, and they may have a good laugh at my expense if that is the response that comes to be. It was hard after a year has gone by, but it was the right thing to do. Like I said, "Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same." Don't judge me. People make mistakes. We are made human. Therefore, we err. We are not all perfect, and we learn by our mistakes.


On another note, don't forget to leave me some recipes. See this post b/c I know y'all have got some good ones.... Several of you ladies asked, and I got the sleeveless ruffled shirt pictured in yesterday's post from New York and Company. If you sign up for their emails, they will send you via email an automatic 20% off. I received an email today for 30% off an entire store purchase. If you need that, just leave me your email, and I'll get it to ya.


And as I said in my previous post, if you'd like me to email you the Ecookbook with the "famous" restaurant recipes, just leave your email. Visitor or regular reader, all are welcome.


Have a Terrific Thursday!!!

13 comments:

Emily said...

I've just been going thru my own facebook/friends issues. I don't know if it's the computer-age, or people are just crappier nowadays, but it's so tiresome. I get very tired of people who turn out to not be friends. My husband is my best friend, and I have 3 or 4 very good friends that I've known for years. Everyone else...eh. :-/

If I knew how to cook anything, I'd post a receipe now and then. :) I keep meaning to steal some off of blogs I read, but never do.

Miss Type-A said...

I think it's really good that you said something. Whether she chooses to respond or not is her deal, but you've now owned up to your behavior and been very mature about it! Good for you!

♥ H ♥ said...

I think its good that you said something. You owning up to your mistakes makes you a bigger person. Hopefully she sees this :)

Peace, love, and Big said...

I'm glad that you said something! I'm sure that her response will gage whether or not she was a friend at all. Despite whatever may have happened between you two, a real friend would accept your apology.

I hope everything turns out great!

...Mrs. Southern Bride... said...

That is quite the testimony to share that. And that's such a good thing to back and apologize. I hope she accepts this!

a H.I.T. said...

Trust me - we've all had our moments and while many of us pretend they never happened, you hit it head on! Well played. No matter what happens, know that you did the right thing to resolve the issue.

The Pink Chick said...

This is a great post! I think you did the right thing. No matter what she does with your message, you did what was right for you and that is the only thing that matters.

Texan Couture said...

I can understand everyone makes mistakes. I agree you did the right thing by sending that message no matter the outcome.

KK said...

That's awesome that you wrote her from the heart, took ownership and didn't use the word "but" to excuse yourself!! You should feel proud as that took a LOT of courage. Even if you never hear back from her, she will know that you feel sad about how things ended. Good luck!

Domestic Diva said...

Good for you for saying something! Thanks for stopping by my blog. Have a fabulous evening!!
xxx me

Blondie said...

At least you went and apologized which a lot of people don't do so if she doesn't message you back don't worry about it. You made an attempt and that's all that matters. People are going to judge and say things that you have no control over so if she shows the email around just let it be. You are being the mature one for apologizing. Good for you.

Sweet Home Amy said...

Hellooo...I need your email. Thx :) I had to go private. Boo. Anywho, shoot me a line at sweethomeamy at live dot com. TTYL!

RedCurlGirl said...

at least you can admit when you're wrong and try to make it right.

not many people can do that...which only makes people like you special

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